It’s All in the Urn

An urn shaped like a round chocolate doughnut with colorful sprinkles.


Did you know that ashes can be stored in pretty much anything? Funeral homes sell urns that are the standard holder for cremains (cremated remains) and these are infamous for their price tags. However, you can bring your own receptacle to store ashes. So if your grandpa did ceramics, you can choose something he made to hold his ashes. Or maybe you found a beautiful wooden basket while traveling that is special to you. Or maybe your person loved doughnuts and so that’s the urn style you use (yes, that is a picture of an actual urn and, yes, if you click on it there are 27 other ones that might make you smile). The possibilities are infinite.

I do have a couple of recommendations to help make your urn option aesthetically and practically ideal. Choose a container with a wide neck to make it easier to pour ashes into without creating a mess. If it would be easy to pour sand or sugar into your urn, then it will also be easy to safely pour all of the ashes into that item. Also consider something with either a lid or tall enough for ashes not to readily spill out if moved. It is also important, especially if your urn is in an unexpected shape, to let others know what it is and what it holds so that no unintentional mistakes happen. It would be horrible to accidentally send an urn full of ashes to the thrift shop. Other than that, though, document your choice and make it your own!

For more unique urn inspiration, check out this Buzzfeed article.

Neshia Alaovae

Providing trauma-informed, culturally grounded deathcare that honors the fullness of life.

https://www.athoughtfuldeath.com
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